I don’t think every episode of this show is for everyone and as you can see from the title of this episode that especially holds true. It’s the holidays and for the most part people are busying themselves with the stuff of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s… Office and neighborhood holiday parties and such.
And these holidays have their rough spots as well. We sit down with the Senator again and discuss the loss of his mother just over a month ago. What that was like and what it’s like for the loved one’s left behind, specifically spouses of the elderly. What is elderly? Hmm. It depends on who you ask. The AARP says 50… Social Security says 62 or possibly 65… millennials and Gen X’ers might say 30… or 40. This podcast right now says 50. In fact I’ve had an algorithm built into the podcast that will not allow anyone under 50 to listen. The algorithm has collected all the data out there on you, your phone purchase and registration, your social media choices and if you attempt to listen to this podcast and you’re under 50? Your device will self destruct and turn to smoke like on Mission Impossible. The TV show, not the movie franchise!
So, we’re going to talk about death and dying and old age and dealing with loved one’s who are “getting up there” whatever that means to you. Because that’s the core of this podcast’s demographic. And you know what? We’ll fit a couple of jokes in there as well because… what else are you going to do? I also have some resources at the bottom of the description that I hope you will take some time to check out and I’ll have more on that at the close.
We pick up our conversation though as I’m giving the Senator tips on his mic technique and he becomes overjoyed that I flub a word because as you know, I’m usually the one who’s barking at him about the way he butchers the English language… and his glowing review of the episode with HIS daughter when we talked about the Okay Boomer meme.
If you’re making the decision for a loved one, consider that you could be making this a little bit about you and not the person you love. “What will people think if we put Mom in a senior care center with all of us brothers and sisters?” As I said my observation is that for some cultures it is the highest priority to care for the patriarch or more often the matriarch of the family.
But if you do not have a family dynamic with siblings and children to rely upon, senior communities can not only be a viable option, they can be the best option, given the very considerable cost many of them come with.
It’s a huge factor and it falls under the category of Healthcare which is a prime political topic that is not going away… especially with some many of the US population getting older right now.
You don’t know what it’s like to live in that kind of community. Neither do I. I would encourage you to at least live with the idea that you don’t know. Not knowing anything, especially as we get older, feels foreign, it makes us feel un-useful to our families and to ourselves and I think the natural instinct is to avoid it later in life. So to start, I hope you will entertain the thought of “I don’t know”.
The preconception and the stereotype of Senior living communities is a false narrative. False Narrative! Does that term sound familiar? False narrative is the same way of saying fake news.
I hope you found something valuable and intriguing here, including a link at the bottom from NPR’s Terry Gross on the Privilege of caring for dying patients, a great talk about the perspectives on death from Psychologist Richard Alpert aka Ram Dass and a link to a great Netflix suggestion, especially if you are a Bruce Springsteen fan. It’s called Springsteen on Broadway and it’s filled with the great stories he has told during his performances, some confessions about songwriting as well as his solo acoustic songs on both guitar and piano. In fact we’ll leave with a song for Mom called “The Wish” from that Netflix special… thanks for listening to the Modern Moron… see you next time.
A Nurse Reflects On The Privilege Of Caring For Dying Patients – NPR
Perspectives on Death – Pt. 1 – YouTube | Psychologist Richard Alpert | RamDass.org
Bruce Springsteen – The Wish (Springsteen on Broadway – Official Audio) – YouTube Springsteen On Broadway – Netflix